P\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, fakti q\u00eb ka njer\u00ebz, vullnetarisht ose n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pavullnetshme, m\u00eb reaktiv\u00eb ndaj asaj q\u00eb ndodh n\u00eb mjedisin p\u00ebrreth tyre nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb e re. P\u00ebr ta, dhimbja e tjetrit n\u00eb vetvete, dhemb, humori i keq i dikujt ndikon n\u00eb gjendjen e tij t\u00eb keqe; lajmet e r\u00ebnda p\u00ebr dob\u00ebsin\u00eb njer\u00ebzore i konsumojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n
<\/ins>A \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur p\u00ebr t\u00eb menaxhuar k\u00ebt\u00eb mbingarkes\u00eb emocionale si duhet p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit empatik\u00eb?<\/p>\n Shum\u00eb pak mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt kur dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb i zhytur n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin burim destabilizimi emocional. Si t\u00eb reagoni kur p\u00ebrthithni sjellje q\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb ekuilibrin e p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm? M\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb 7 sugjerime p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrballur me njer\u00ebz toksik\u00eb dhe ndikimin e tyre n\u00eb emocionet tona.<\/p>\n 1.\u00a0Mos harroni se t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuarit nuk ju detyron t\u00eb reagoni<\/strong><\/p>\n Rr\u00ebfimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga aktet q\u00eb karakterizon m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti njer\u00ebzimin ton\u00eb dhe, n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb, mbetet nj\u00eb nga aspektet m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrlikuara t\u00eb ekzistenc\u00ebs son\u00eb.<\/p>\n T\u00eb jetosh n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb jetosh me njer\u00ebz me origjin\u00eb, mendime dhe vlera personale t\u00eb ndryshme. Dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00ebprerje t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, me siguri do t\u00eb takojm\u00eb njer\u00ebz, prania dhe bashk\u00ebjetesa e t\u00eb cil\u00ebve nuk do t\u00eb na b\u00ebj\u00eb ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n Ekzistojn\u00eb dy m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr t\u2019u p\u00ebrballur me k\u00ebto situata: e para \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00ebrheqja. Por largimi, p\u00ebr pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb veprim i mundsh\u00ebm, sepse duhet t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb vende t\u00eb ndryshme, kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr pun\u00ebn ton\u00eb, ose nuk mundemi (t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe) t\u00eb largohemi nga familja etj.<\/p>\n Zot\u00ebsia, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb zvog\u00eblojm\u00eb nd\u00ebrveprimin n\u00eb minimumin e mundsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebjetes\u00eb paq\u00ebsore.<\/p>\n P\u00ebr shembull, n\u00ebse nuk m\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjet e diskutueshme, pse duhet t\u00eb futem n\u00eb nj\u00eb bised\u00eb q\u00eb flet p\u00ebr to?<\/p>\n Neutraliteti zakonisht zvog\u00eblon shanset p\u00ebr mosmarr\u00ebveshje dhe nuk nxit biseda t\u00eb pafrytshme.<\/p>\n Mos harroni se n\u00ebse ndiheni t\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb sigurin\u00eb tuaj, nuk ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb konsumoni veten duke u p\u00ebrpjekur t\u2019i provoni tjetrit se keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb.<\/p>\n 2.\u00a0Mos u ndjeni p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr ndryshimet q\u00eb vet\u00ebm personi tjet\u00ebr mund t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb<\/strong><\/p>\n Ju nuk mund t\u00eb ndryshoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin pa qen\u00eb t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb ndryshoni veten. Sidoqoft\u00eb, kur ndryshoni, ju zgjoheni nj\u00eb reagim zinxhir n\u00eb \u00e7do mjedis rreth jush, dhe pastaj p\u00ebrpiqeni t\u2019i p\u00ebrshtateni modelit tuaj t\u00eb ri, e k\u00ebshtu t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt gjithashtu do t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb.<\/p>\n Edhe pse, nuk ka asnj\u00eb garanci q\u00eb k\u00ebto ndryshime do t\u00eb vijn\u00eb direkt p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur pritjet tuaja.<\/p>\n 3.\u00a0Vendosni kufij p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt dhe p\u00ebr veten tuaj<\/strong><\/p>\n N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb drejtim \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb mbani mend se edhe n\u00ebse shoq\u00ebria e shum\u00eb njer\u00ebzve \u00ebsht\u00eb e imponuar n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb, njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm vet\u00ebm sepse ne lejojm\u00eb dhe ushqejm\u00eb pranin\u00eb e tyre.<\/p>\n Pse i ftojm\u00eb njer\u00ebzit me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk duam t\u00eb jemi af\u00ebr? Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb vendosim kufij p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se k\u00eb duam t\u00eb kemi af\u00ebr, por mbi t\u00eb gjitha, kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr kufij p\u00ebr veten ton\u00eb. Ne duhet t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim \u201cjo\u201d-n\u00eb, kur kjo \u201cjo\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb opsioni yn\u00eb i reagimit n\u00eb at\u00eb moment.<\/p>\n 4.\u00a0Ruajtja e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve<\/strong><\/p>\n Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet nd\u00ebrtohen dhe zhvillohen vet\u00ebm p\u00ebrmes bindjes, investimeve emocionale dhe tejkalimit t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsive.<\/p>\n Fakti q\u00eb sot dikush \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb edhe nes\u00ebr. Pas nj\u00eb periudhe kohe bashk\u00ebjetese, ne duhet t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojm\u00eb se kush duhet t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb dhe kush duhet t\u00eb largohet nga intimiteti yn\u00eb.<\/p>\n 5.\u00a0Mos ofroni ndihm\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk jeni t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb jepni. Mos shkoni n\u00eb vendet q\u00eb nuk doni t\u00eb jeni<\/strong><\/p>\n Pasi t\u00eb keni kryer detyrat tuaja t\u00eb pun\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb keni respektuar t\u00eb drejtat minimale t\u00eb nj\u00eb jete me respekt, mos harroni se \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu e nevojshme t\u00eb ushtroni toleranc\u00eb: duhet t\u00eb thoni gjithashtu JO p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur n\u00ebse, n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar, nuk keni forc\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhuruar.<\/p>\n Shumica e problemeve q\u00eb kemi hasur gjat\u00eb rrug\u00ebs dhe q\u00eb thithin energjin\u00eb ton\u00eb jet\u00ebsore, jan\u00eb pasoj\u00eb e munges\u00ebs s\u00eb respektit p\u00ebr veten, kur ne nuk mund t\u00eb themi Mjaft dhe Jo.<\/p>\n 6.\u00a0Merrni p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi t\u00eb plot\u00eb p\u00ebr vendimet tuaja<\/strong><\/p>\n Mos ngrini nj\u00eb altar p\u00ebr torturuesit psikologjik\u00eb; ata q\u00eb heqin shum\u00eb prej nesh pa ofruar asgj\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebmbim t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrrimit. Duhet ta identifikojm\u00eb problemin dhe t\u00eb luftojm\u00eb p\u00ebr ndryshime.<\/p>\n Dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebto pasazhe, k\u00ebmb\u00ebt u takojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm atyre q\u00eb zgjedhin rrug\u00ebn e tyre: edhe kur \u00ebsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr t\u00eb pranuar ndihm\u00eb, vendimi \u00ebsht\u00eb personal.<\/p>\n 7.\u00a0Gjeni koh\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb fuqizuar veten<\/strong><\/p>\n Kur t\u00eb ktheheni n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, b\u00ebni nj\u00eb dush t\u00eb gjat\u00eb t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb, b\u00ebni di\u00e7ka q\u00eb doni t\u00eb b\u00ebni.<\/p>\n Kaloni koh\u00eb me ata q\u00eb doni. K\u00ebrkoni p\u00ebr vendet q\u00eb p\u00ebrcjellin paqe. Kurseni koh\u00eb p\u00ebr veten tuaj. Rrini n\u00eb heshtje.<\/p>\n Vendimet, kufijt\u00eb dhe ndryshimet e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb rezultat i zgjedhjeve t\u00eb b\u00ebra n\u00eb qet\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n N\u00ebse nuk mund t\u00eb shp\u00ebtoj nga dhimbja apo edhe l\u00ebkundjet e humorit t\u00eb tjetrit, at\u00ebher\u00eb edhe un\u00eb vuaj. Esht\u00eb e dobishme q\u00eb \u00e7do tem\u00eb p\u00ebr empatin\u00eb t\u00eb publikohet, sepse dhjet\u00ebra njer\u00ebz (t\u00eb cil\u00ebt e identifikojn\u00eb veten si empatik\u00eb) komentojn\u00eb an\u00ebn e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshm\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb tepruar. 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